Something New

Just when you think you are done with it all. Along comes something new.

For America to truly be "post-racial"...

For America to truly be "post-racial" and for Blacks to get their fair share of reparations and at NO cost to the economy or the national debt....every Black person should be allowed to open hand slap 5 random people every 1st Friday and 3rd Monday of each month for ONE year with no repercussions...

This year...

This year I am asking myself... What do I hope to accomplish?

I'm asking this question about every situation in my life. My art and what direction is my art going? My moving to DC or should I try to stick it out another year in NYC or move to an entirely new city like I did when I moved to Chicago back in '96? What do I plan to accomplish with this blog? What type of new job should I be looking for? Going back to school this summer and in the fall. And especially should I be doing to maximize the quality time I spend my children and the need to increase the time with them. And also how should I handle dealing my ex-wife.

A Good Day to be Black & Sexy...

Written and Directed by Dennis Dortch. This movie take a realistic look at black love and sexuality and realtionships. I am glad to see this type of film and wish there would be more films like this one. It's a shame that this movie was not shown on a national scale, but I was able to catch it at film festival here in NYC earlier this week. What impressed me about this film is that I have been in or have close friends that have been in the situations in this film. So for me I got it and loved it. Click the link and join the mailing list. If this film come to your town, be sure to take a few friends with you and spread the word to this film can be shown in more venues.

It's complicated...

Apparently "It's complicated" has become such a popular saying in recent days. I've heard that phrase alot the past week and noticed how inadquate that phrase is as when used to answer or respond a question.

"It's complicated" is small, simple phrase but it's probably the strongest thing I can say to describe my life right now. Like its so hard to explain that so someone without giving too much information yet satisfying their understanding of what you actually wished you could say. All the while expressing your sincere desire to give more of yourself but secretly masking the fact that you have not built the trust in them you need to give away that part of yourself again.

"It's complicated." What I found interesting this week is that "It's complicated" is not a good enough excuse any more. As I prepare to move to DC I start to wonder what I will say to my son when he questions, "why he only sees daddy sometimes now?" I wonder will "It's complicated" be a good enough answer for him? (I doubt it.) I wonder how I will find the nerve to respond "It's complicated." When the real asnwer is "Mommy and Daddy still love you and your sister very much. But, we didn't do what we needed to do to love each other. Instead we just did what was easy to do." (That's the real answer but in reality what ever answer I give to him will not be good enough to make up for the times I haven't been there becuase "It's complicated" got in the way.)

I wonder how many times I'm going to let "It's complicated" get in the way of what I know I should be doing, yet never seem to actually try to do until my back is against the wall. I really wonder. If I don't make the right moves and quit fuckin' around, "It's complicated" is going to get me killed.

Real talk.

That Bougie One.

Saks Fifth Avenue is on Crack

So I'm at my local neighborhood laundry waiting for the wash cycle to finish so I can place my clothes in the dry....(Yes its hard to believe but even The Bougie Negro sometimes has to do his own laundry)....but anyway. I'm flipping through stack of random magazines they put out to keep you from being bored and I notice the Saks 5th Avenue Christmas gift magazine. Now, I'm no fool. I know that Saks is a high end store and I sometimes can afford to buy socks or boxers there when the are on sale. So I'm not surprised by the outrageous prices that accompany the items in the magazine. But this year a few of the item stood out to me and caused me to wonder if these fools are really smoking crack while they put the catalog together.

Some items of special note are:
The "EGO LIFESTYLE" Brown Crocodile-embossed handcrafted leather laptop with integrated handle. Noted as featuring Piano lacquer finished interior and titanium and chrome accents throughout. Asking a small change price of only $10,900.

Now, I have worked in computers for most of my professional life and I've seen and built and fixed thousands of PC/Macs etc. And never have I see any computer worth more that like three grand. Period. All computers break. That why they make them so you can go by another when it breaks. So I'm supposed to go buy another $10K laptop when this one breaks? Or leave this over night with the tech guys at the Apple store? I think not.

There were some sensible gifts like the $795 Hugo Boss tuxedo. Which I'm sure I'd look great in at the Barack Obama Inaugural Ball. (And yes I will be at the inaugural ball in January--don't hate the playa. Hate the game.)

Or even the 18K white gold/silver look "Infinity Chain" bracelet was nice. Asking only $1150. Which is a little high, but I could see someone buying her husband or fiance this as a gift.

But I draw the line at the $800 cuff links or the $31K black titanium watch with no diamonds or nothing just a black and red watch.

We already know Cartier is on crack so I'm not even going to mention the $50K watch. Which did look good, but can't justify $50K watch in this economy. And I won't mention the $49K MontBlanc watch. Montblanc?? Don't they make pens? Who said you can make watches? I think its the crack talking to them.

And speaking of crack. Why have I literally been offered to smoke crack more than a few times at random parties I've been to? I know folks are claiming to be going retro and bringing back the '80s but seriously folks. Crack? Really? And the funny thing its not Black folks who are offering me crack. Its white folks. They must have been sleeping during the '80s.

Anyway yall I'm gonna end this post and hope that all yall get out and vote. Cause another 4yrs of BitchAssNess I don't think I could stand.

Peace.

The Bougie Negro.

It's the return of the....

Ok. So I'm back. The summer was extremely exciting in more ways than a few. This year is almost over and we have plenty worry about and also plenty to be thankful for. But we also still have plenty of time to party. And boy oh boy oh boy have I been partying. I'm going to be posting some new info on what been happening and what I've been doing. I'll also be posting what is coming up before years end. Oh yeah and you must stay tuned to my continuing quest to find the perfect Mojito. I have found a few strong contenders, but Calle Ocho is still on top of the list with their Sparkling Mojito.

Also, I met a lot of new artists this summer that I will be spotlighting in the weeks to come so stay tuned for that.

Peace.

The Bougie Negro.

Secret Crush...

I have a secret crush on the girls from American Apparel.
That's all I wanted to say.